Digital Nomads – Change Your Thoughts to Change Your Life
Success starts with building better thoughts. PERIOD.
It is easy to say I am going to do this thing (differently) starting today, tomorrow or next week.
So many times, it is easy to do in a moment of anger or frustration.
I am going to make more money.
I am going to lose weight.
I am going to start my own business.
I am going to….[insert the thing you tell yourself here].
But within days, maybe even minutes you are back to doing exactly as you have already done.
To do anything differently in your life, you need will power.
Changing our day-to-day behaviors may be easier than you may have imagined. It is why to some extent motivational and inspirational quotes are so popular. Reading the quotes often trigger a feeling of empowerment. But how do you maintain that feeling through the action? That is the question and also the answer to unlocking your full access to everything you may feel so disconnected from.
Changing our thought patterns, helps to change our behaviors and in turn, change our lives.
Here’s how it’s done.
If we believe something to be easy, we find little, if any struggle in accomplishing it. However, if we imagine something to be difficult to accomplish, then our struggle becomes more apparent. In fact, if we imagine that it is difficult to change a specific behavior, then we will always find experiences that will justify that belief.
Take this for example. We wake up one morning and decide that:
“This is the day I will start losing weight. When things get difficult, I will not reach for junk food, but instead I will focus on something else to keep my mind occupied. It’ll be tough at first, but I’m going to give it a try.”
If you continue with this thought pattern and belief, don’t be surprised to find yourself struggling more often than not. Why?
If we look at this example closely we find a couple of thought patterns and beliefs already in place. We have determined to do something good for ourselves, but we do ourselves a disservice by choosing certain negative thought patterns, beliefs and words that go along with it.
We have said,
“When things get difficult….”
(This is already assuming that there will be difficult moments!)
“It’ll be tough at first…”
(This is already assuming it will be difficult at first! )
“…but I’m going to give it a try.”
(In Star Wars Master Yoda said…”Do or Do Not. There is no “try”).
Now there are hundreds of products out there that will assist people in losing weight. Some, if not all of them, may work for various people at various stages of their goal. But for many people who have convinced themselves that losing weight is difficult, some products may fall short when our thought patterns are stronger than our desire to change.
Internalizing the desire to change is what you must accomplish before you decide to move forward with any dream, idea or goal.
After discovering the book the Miracle Morning, here is what I did to change a behavior I no longer desired.
Previously when I woke up, I did so at the tone of my alarm clock. I woke up, grabbed my laptop and started working on whatever, sometimes checking email and also browsing social media. And then I proceeded with my day. I worked on whatever was in front of; I put out customer fires as they appeared; and I did whatever else at whatever time and moment I pleased. After all, I am my own boss, right?
After learning the principles of the book the Miracle Morning, I committed to making a successful morning to make a successful day. I love me, I really do. But there are some things I struggled with – such as the way I looked; the guilt I felt when I didn’t accomplish things by the time I wanted; or the pressure in dealing with societal expectations.
I needed to change and take some action towards it.
First, I realized that I had to change my way of thinking. My old thought patterns were no longer working for me. My thoughts were like little tiny pictures that I projected in my mind of how terrible I was or how difficult my life was. I no longer wanted these pictures or thought patterns a part of my life. I had to choose a thought pattern and belief that would be easier to think about.
I chose this thought,
“Growing my business will be fun and grow me.”
Perhaps not the most ideal for everyone but it worked for me.
Secondly, I chose a word I wanted to focus on for that day, week or month to help me in accomplishing my goal (Start with just a day, or just an hour for that matter. Keep it simple.) The word I chose needed to be in relation to the change I want to make. For example, I chose the word “FOCUS”, as I felt that that’s what I needed to think about most of time; focus on building not destructing. Choose any word as long as it relates to your situation. (Attitude, Energy, Action, Believe…)
Following that, I searched the Internet for motivational and inspirational quotes that resonated within me that related to that specific word I chose. Quotes that I could remember, especially ones that really spoke to what I wanted to accomplish.
But here’s the most important part.
I needed quotes that were powerful enough to change my thought patterns the moment I read them. Quotes that REALLY spoke to me when I my eyes fell upon them. Quotes that forced me to pause and think for a moment. Quotes that had that extra “edge” where my mind said, “Yes. This is one.”
These are all signs of a quote that held power for me. I “focused” in on the following quotes.
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.” Buddha
“The only way to discover the limits of the possible, is to go beyond them into them impossible.” Arthur C. Clarke
“It’s not what you achieve in the end that matters, it’s who you become in the process.” Author Unknown
In fact, I found dozens of quotes that I resorted to from time to time, but these three I always came back to. They spoke of who I was, what I wanted to accomplish and who I wanted to become as I worked towards my goal.
I wrote them down. I carried these quotes with me constantly. I read them and meditated on them whenever I had the opportunity to. At work, home or at the gym (yup, I finally got myself to exercise, primarily by focusing on Arthur C. Clarke’s quote!), I focused on these three powerful quotes to help me FOCUS on what I wanted.
Because I changed my thought patterns, over time, I can honestly say I am more self-motivated, LASER focused and whole lot happier. Yes, I’ll be the first to admit that accomplishing your goal involves more than just thinking but it all begins with your thoughts. The thoughts then permeate into you actions.
So here’s your Growth Goal:
1. Decide to change your way of thinking about a behavior, making it easier for you to think about it. Phrase it in a simple way.
2. Choose a word to focus on to change that behavior for a period of time.
3. Find a minimum of three motivational or inspirational quotes related to that specific word that are powerful enough to change your current thought patterns the moment you read them.
4. Meditate on those quotes and repeat them, silently or out loud, every chance you get.
5. Commit to writing a journal entry for the next 30 days. Everyday write 3 new ways you can promote, share or grow your business. Look in your neighborhood and online to spark some ideas of how other businesses are marketing and write down your idea.
It does not matter if you have not started your business yet. 80% of businesses are universal with their foundation and marketing is something that every business needs to do to grow and be successful.
Finally, remember that thoughts are the precursor to action, meaning that thoughts occur before any action takes place. That’s what needs to be changed first. Your thoughts.
It has worked for me time and time again and I hope this inspires and motivates you to achieve your goal.
Think and LIVE inspired and positive!